We are busy women. Many people and tasks require our attention, our commitment, our energy, our love. In all the craziness of this modern world, we may forget to direct that attention and love to a very important person: our self!
But just like any other relationship or commitment, our self needs time and attention to function well and feel good. This self care is crucial to your wellbeing! It’s not selfish to schedule self-time into your calendar, and to be clear that it’s a priority to your family.
Ways to work self time into your life:
- Schedule “quiet time” (particularly if you have young kids)
- Use the hour while your child is at a lesson (walk, go to cafe, read a book)
- Have a standing phone call with a friend
- Sign up for a class
- Make exercise a priority (take a walk after dinner, leaving your kids at home)
- Make a standing date with yourself to get a massage, go for a hike, or hit the library
- Get up early (self time may be easiest to obtain when everyone else is asleep!)
Rethink the things you “have” to do
Even chores can turn into self-time! Make grocery shopping leisurely, walk to the post office, or use the car ride home to listen to a podcast, audiobook, favorite music, or to take a phone call.
The type of self-time that works best for you will depend on your temperament and lifestyle. A simple example is that an introvert might prioritize a quiet walk alone, while an extrovert might prefer to walk while talking on the phone.
Another important point is that scheduling this kind of self-care is a great example for your kids! Teenagers, especially in today’s world of competition and digital media, have many demands on their time and attention, too. Modeling the importance of creating time for oneself is a life skill that will hugely benefit your teens. Encourage your kids to think about what helps them rejuvenate, and encourage them to make it part of their schedule to do so.