How did I become The Mom’s Coach? It is simpler than you might imagine. As I walked my own journey of motherhood I realized that my kids had a coach, and I needed one, too! I wanted a coach I could connect with, who would support and challenge me to improve and make good decisions. I realized that my experiences, failures, and wins equipped me with the tools to become for others what I had always wanted for myself: a Mom’s Coach.
I graduated from Howard University with a BS in Mechanical Engineering, and went on to Stanford University for an MS in Engineering Management. All the engineering training has made me exceptional at working hard to find solutions. However, I grew tired of itty bitty towns and noisy factories. And I met a guy. So I turned in my steel-toed shoes, moved to Michigan, and started business school at the University of Michigan. I got married over winter break and pregnant six weeks later. By the time I graduated with my MBA, I was a wife and mom and completely clueless!!!
My kid did not come with instructions and my own mom was hundreds of miles away. However, I was resourceful and determined and competitive. I was going to be a great mom! My kid was going to be perfect because I would provide him with every opportunity to be the best. As soon as he could walk, I signed up my two year-old for soccer. He did well enough that I convinced myself this was giving him the edge he needed to win at life. And so my journey began.
I kept pushing soccer and he got better. In the second grade he started acting out in school and I blamed his teachers and curriculum. Hindsight is twenty-twenty: at that time I couldn’t see the forest for the trees. I didn’t notice that my son was unhappy. His soccer playing became my obsession, my world. Everything that I did had some affiliation with soccer. My social life, my schedule, and my success were all tied to his soccer game.
Fast forward: I have three teenagers now. My oldest son quit soccer because I pushed it too hard, and I almost lost my relationship with him through my obsession. Our relationship is on the mend and we are both much better now. My younger kids are very active in (you guessed it!) soccer. But this time it is their journey. I know the pain that can result when a mom loses herself in her child’s world. I know what happens when you spend nights worrying about your child being on the right team with the right coach. I know what it feels like to spend thousands of dollars on an activity to have your child quit. I know what it does to your gut and your world. I know firsthand how to support you through the highs and lows that come with wanting your teenagers to win.
Your kids already have a coach. I’m your coach. I supports moms (and dads) to relax and enjoy the journey with their teens, no matter what the destination. I know that you want your kids to have the best. I understand Wanting 2 Win. I support you in that journey so that your kids AND you can win without you losing yourself.