I am Stephanie Dorah – The Mom’s Coach. I know that mothers of highly-talented athletes face unique challenges. Many moms give their ALL to support the athletic dreams of their teenagers. I coach and support these moms to carve out time for themselves and to relax, so that they can enjoy their teens and the journey of parenting, no matter the destination.
How did I get to become The Mom’s Coach? It is simpler than you might imagine. As I walked my own journey of motherhood I realized that my kids had a coach and I needed one too. I wanted a coach that I could connect to, the same way I wanted my kids to connect to their coaches. As I traveled down my path I realized that my experiences, mistakes, failures, and wins equipped me with the relatability that I needed to become The Mom’s Coach.
A little bit more about me: I graduated from Howard University with a BS in Mechanical Engineering. I wasn’t ready to enter the working world yet so I went to Stanford University and graduated with a MS in Engineering Management. All that engineering training has made me exceptional at working hard to figure out the solutions. However, I grew tired of itty bitty towns and noisy factories. And I met a guy. So I turned in my steel-toed shoes, moved to Michigan, and started down the path of motherhood. I entered business school at the University of Michigan, I got married over winter break, and got pregnant six weeks later. By the time I graduated the following spring with my MBA, I was a wife and a mom and clueless!!!
Then Real Life Happened
My son did not come with instructions and my own mom was hundreds of miles away. However, I was resourceful and determined and competitive. I was going to be a great mom and my kid was going to be perfect and exceptional! I wanted to provide him with every opportunity to be the best. I wanted him to win at life and I was determined to set him up so he could achieve just that. So what did I do? As soon as he could walk, I signed him up for soccer. Because I wanted him to have an edge, I registered my two year-old to a soccer team for three year olds. He did well enough that I convinced myself that he was fine. And so my over-involved journey began.
I kept pushing soccer and he kept getting better. When he started acting out in the second grade and I blamed it on the teachers and the curriculum. Hindsight is twenty-twenty – I couldn’t see the forest for the trees to notice that my son was unhappy. His soccer became my world. Everything that I did had some affiliation with my son’s soccer. My social life, my schedule, and my success were all tied to his athleticism.
Soccer didn’t work.
Fast forward to today: I have three teenagers now. My oldest son quit soccer because I pushed so hard that I almost lost our relationship for good. We are on the mend now and we are both much better from what we learned through that journey. My two younger kids are actually very active in – you guessed it – soccer. But this time it is their journey and their path. I know the painful results that can happen when a mom loses herself in her child’s world. I know what happens when you spend nights worrying about your child being on the right team with the right coach. I know what it feels like to spend thousands of dollars over the years on your child’s sport to have him quit. I know what that does to your gut and your world and I know how to support you through the highs and lows that come with supporting your athletic teenagers.
Your kids already have a coach. I’m your coach.
I work with moms who give their all to support the dreams of their teenagers. I help them relax and carve out time for themselves, so that they can enjoy their teens and their journey no matter destination. I know that you want your kids to have the best. I understand Wanting 2 Win. I support you in that journey so that your kids can win without you losing yourself.